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Growing up I watched every Disney Princess movie under the sun. Each story the same: beautiful hopeless woman is trapped by some type of evil force, lies there helplessly until a strong man rescues her, and she in return marries him and they live "happily ever after". Watching these movies over and over automatically gives young girls the impression that they are lost until a man sweeps them off their feet. Also, did any of those princesses think once to go on a date with the prince before riding off in the sunset to marry them?
In today's media SEX SELLS. Almost every female artist out there wear provocative clothing and shake their booties around while singing their songs. They realize that their audience are more likely to enjoy their performance if they are more risque. I actually don't even like Taylor Swift because her music and image is so innocent and baby-like and all of her music reflect the Disney Princess theme. In comparison to her female counterparts, she can only target a handful of listeners (other completely innocent women, and little girls).
It's hard to realize how some commercials and songs can be demeaning to women because they all reflect the powerful woman's image today. A powerful woman like Beyonce or Lady Gaga strut around in their leotards and perform provocatively. I, personally, share more appreciation for the riskier women like Marylin Monroe and Britney Spears who sings songs about threesomes and such, rather than a song about a damsel in distress who needs a man to save her. I find myself laughing at the Dr. Pepper 10 commercial instead of jumping off my couch screaming "I can drink a Damn Dr. Pepper 10 if I wanna!". I feel that the reason I can easily overlook the underlying image of how women aren't allowed this certain drink because we're not strong enough, is because there's hardly any empowering or equalizing commercials for women out there. We subconsciously believe that we actually aren't strong enough or manly enough for the Dr. Pepper 10, so we laugh latently in agreement to the message.
Meh... oh well..

Give us a break!

Almost every woman on Earth is expected to hold a certain image that their men have created for them: behind the sink wearing an apron, pot roast in the oven, and a baby in her arms. For my grandmother the housewife-life must have been strenuous by taking care of 3 children, but for most of our mothers and today's generation of women, it is much more hard. My grandparents lived in an all-american household: Papaw worked while Mamaw cooked, cleaned, and cared for her children. That was her daily job. However, I remember how hard it was in my household watching my mother try to fulfill her duties while "second-shifting" every day. 

My mom worked 9-5 at a hair salon then came straight home to prepare supper and to clean the house. It especially became harder on her when my dad left and she had to get a second job. To be able to afford our house, she was forced to work at the salon 9-5, come home to my brother and I and cook dinner, and then do more hair in our basement from 6-9. I honestly don't see how she did it while maintaining her class, beauty, and motherhood. Today's women are pressured to get jobs outside of the house only yet to return home after work and care for the family. It puts more stress on today's women because they deserve the greatest appreciation and don't get it most of the time because it's somewhat "expected" from them to play this Super Mom role. Husbands in return (most of the time) don't contribute because they think their jobs require more from them and need to come home to relax when in reality, the wives are working twice as hard every day; but we push through it because it's our duty. 

It's sad to think that we have fought so hard to gain the same working rights as men, but get no help in the home because the men believe it's nothing else but their instinct. Husbands need to help us in the household because today's housewives are growing more and more stressed and thus, some wives commit suicide unfortunately. 

Male-on-female violence is everywhere!

Today's media is fully responsible for creating this violent, strong male image that most men feel they should follow. This creates violence towards the weak who are other men who don't hold this image and, more importantly, women. I personally have not been a victim of male-on-female violence physically or verbally, yet, however I know a very close member of my family who has. I will not say her name or how she is related to me; but I will call her Sue for her safety and privacy.
Before I went to college, Sue sat me down to explain the dangers of date-rape and violence. I assured her that I would be fine and will always have my fiance (at the time) and my male friends to protect me at bars or parties. She looked at me with tears in her eyes and warned me that my friends are the ones who I should be most concerned with.
Sue and her best friend Bob have been close friends since high school and both attended Ole Miss together. Bob took Sue to a huge party at his fraternity and everything went perfectly. Bob sheltered her from the other drunk frat boys who hit on her and tried to give her drinks. Sue only took drinks from Bob knowing that they would be safe to consume.
Sue woke up the next morning in the back of her car, naked and bleeding. She had bruises on her arms and legs and her vagina hurt excruciatingly. She realized that she had been date-raped. She ran to the police and called Bob to come to her rescue and to be questioned by the police if he knew who took Sue out of his sight. However, Bob was nowhere to be found and was unreachable. He had cut of his phone and ran to Alabama where they later found him. He eventually confessed that he had date-raped his own best friend and was convicted.
The story horrified me. I never realized that most women who are victims of date-rape are done so by their closest male friends! It's a proven fact! Now I am extremely careful with who I am with and always make sure that I have a sober female to watch over me when I go out, and I sometimes stay sober to watch my girlfriends and offer them rides home before another guy does. It's extremely prevalent and dangerous and I take the precautions needed to make sure that it hopefully never happens to me.

ANTI-CHOICE IS ANTI-WOMAN!!

When Bell Hooks explained that a woman cannot be a true feminist AND pro-life, I complete agreed with her! Women have a bond of sisterhood to help each other reach liberation and freedoms of decision (including abortion). Hopefully nobody is pro-abortion. I am proudly pro-choice and feel that anyone who tells me I'm immoral or wrong is delivering a huge slap to my face! We have all seen or heard about Initiative 26 and how, if passed, it will take away so many freedoms of choice Mississippi women have today regarding how they can prevent or terminate pregnancies. I have decided to become a radical left-winged nut on the subject and to speak out against it, for I feel that will greatly affect our state.
Women have fought so hard in the 20th century to gain liberation and yet, today, we are slowly loosing that power over our own bodies? It completely infuriates me when, upon discussing the topic, men feel the need to put their two-cents in. How dare they!? They are not a woman! They do not have to endure the physical/emotional pains that women who become pregnant out of wedlock must endure for 9 months and beyond! I got into a debate with a man on the "Vote No on Initiative 26" discussion board last night. A male citizen proceeded to tell me that I should just go ahead and vote "yes" just so I will have a clear conscious and better chance of getting into Heaven and that it was only happening in Mississippi and that I should get over it.. Excuse me? My response went as followed: I appreciate your opinions but we're living in the "Bible Belt". First Mississippi and next will be all of the other southern states. Why should a woman resort to transporting herself over hundreds of miles away for something that could be done somewhere within her connivence? The keyword is Pro-CHOICE. If it is our CHOICE as women to terminate our own pregnancies than that is something we as an INDIVIDUAL must decide. Since you bring a religious view into your post, just consider how God's will controls everything. If it is the mother's decision, that is between her and God and she will have to face her own consequences. On the other hand, not everybody believes in God or His will, therefore we as a state should respect their personal beliefs and not try to force our Christian views upon them. No matter what happens with this Initiative, it will not affect you, or other men in ANY way. Think of the liberation us women have fought so many years for. This is the 21st century, it's about time we gained every single right that you as a man have too!

So there ya have it. Exactly how I feel... I am a Christian and feel that it is a decision between mother and God. Nobody should be taking the rights away from a woman on her own body. It's sickening to know that there are people out there that hit below the belt by saying they are "baby killers" and are going to hell. Get real people. If you are a believer in God, understand that He will take control of the situation. It is not mine or your right to make a decision for another individual. Also, not everyone believes in a God, so quite forcing your Bible down their throats! They don't do it to you. Well... that's my bitchin' for today! :) 

Stay Horny My Friends.

bumpin' uglies

Growing up in a southern household I was taught how to keep my purity until I was married. I was taught that sex makes everything complicated and how it's a sin. However, my parents weren't the ones to teach me this but it was my public school that did. During the years when I really needed "the talk" my dad already had his foot out of the door. Next, I started dating and my dad was never there to squeeze my boyfriend's hand and look him in the eye with a warning of "you be good to her boy". So I basically had to rely on TV or books to teach me right from wrong. 

I began dating my ex fiance when I was 15 years old. I guess I "found my womanhood" with him and only him throughout high school. Since I was taught that sex was supposed to be saved for husbands, I kept him in my life because I thought that since I lost my virginity to him, I was obligated to marry him. He asked me to be his wife last year in June and that's when he began cheating on me (perfect timing huh?). I finally grew some balls and broke it off last January after months of letting him do it to me. He moved on quickly and I thought to myself "It's not fair for him to be with whoever he wants". So I did so too. 

I finally began looking at myself as not a victim anymore and decided to have men in my life. I always felt like I needed a man to talk to since I didn't have my dad. I still today crave attention and interaction with a guy. With that being said, I NEVER let a guy choose me; I always chose my guy. After having a few notches under my belt I met Mason at my work. Quiet, shy, good looking so I thought he'd be the perfect boy to corrupt (I do love the wallflowers).  We bumped uglies a few times and that's when I realized that he really is perfect for my life and understands my "daddy issues" and unlike most guys, has no problem with it. 

I feel like having sex with whomever I, as a woman, chose and not letting them choose me empowers me. I feel that I'm not a slut for having multiple partners and it's my damn right. I'm very open with my sexuality and have no shame behind it. I am adventurous, get places pierced on my body to increase pleasure, and I don't care who knows it! I'm happy with my decisions and have absolutely no regrets! I'm glad that I can write to all of you and let you know these things, because nobody should be ashamed of their past and as a sexual woman myself, be proud of your body. Express yourself however you choose, and just be safe. Don't let a man tell you that he needs you and wants you. Don't give a man the satisfaction of thinking he "got" you. Satisfy yourself by choosing who YOU want and "get" them! I always chose my men and never let a man choose me. I give myself power this way and I don't care who knows it. 

Hi, I'm Tara and I'm apparently open for business.

I remember the day like it was yesterday. I had waited 17 years to finally become a "leader" in our church's Lads to Leaders program we held every year in Natchez. I packed my bible and my bags and drove 7 hours with my church to the Grand ol' Opry Hotel. It was riddled with Christians and I was finally going to be their Moses! The program leader greeted me at the door where she proceeded to check my bags (ya know, for devilish shit). She then discovered my Yaz pill packet in the bottom of my purse. She told me that they were against the Christian beliefs and socially unacceptable and sent me home.

I felt awful! How could a fellow lady tell me that I couldn't take Birth Control pills? I mean come on people! Weren't these little bastards created for OUR benefit? To give us women the power to choose our own life paths without worry? I felt insulted to hear another woman tell me that my choices to take the birth control basically defined me as a "loose" woman. How dare she or anyone label me in that sense? Women should have the right to their own bodies. If I don't want to have a child right now I'm gonna pop these little suckers into my mouth every night at 9 as much as I please.

Politically, I have the right as a young woman to make this conscience decision. However, I feel that whenever a guy sees me take my pills he thinks I will put out; or, if another girl sees me she will think I'm a slut. I shouldn't have to make an excuse to run off to the bathroom just to take my pill. The pill has a lot of biological benefits and I feel that I should have the complete right to take it whenever I please without being judged. You don't have to be open for business because you're on the pill. There are plenty of reasons why it was created, so us women should stop being so judgmental on the fact that other women take it. It was a hard-earned right for us so screw the world (Literally if you want to. I won't judge)...  :P